Some people cannot feel happy, not even on sunny days surrounded by loving family and friends. Those people will have difficulty contributing to the family, or feeling happy enough to become half of a satisfying long-term relationship. Showered with the good things in life, they nevertheless cannot feel content or pleased with life. Their emotions overwhelm their ability to talk themselves out of it. They are depressed. That state of consciousness can begin in childhood.
Sometimes, depressed people have not learned how to be grateful or how to forgive people who have hurt them. Their unhappiness can be countered with “positive thinking” or cognitive behavioural training (CBT) or the acceptance of religious belief. When they learn a new way of viewing reality that can be applied to their frustrations and disappointments and anger or hurt, gradually (or perhaps even suddenly) they become happier and more content.
Sometimes, depressed people are not getting good nutrition, enough exercise, or some other physical need. Their outlook on life can be changed with better nutrition, exercise, nutritional supplements, purer water, quitting smoking, or some other physical change.
Other depressed people are unable to change their feelings by applying a tried-and-true system of rational, optimistic, or faith-based thinking. They try to make life-style changes that have physical effects, but cannot stick with them. No matter how hard they try, they remain anxious, hurt, angry, jealous, disappointed, frustrated, and sad. Some days may be better than others, but overall the world is never sunny enough long enough. They no longer trust the people who have told them to do this, that, or the other thing to feel content.
Those people may discover chemicals that make them feel happier for a while: alcohol, marijuana, other illegal drugs, or prescription medications. By the time the negative side effects of those chemicals have become frightening the person has no more control over using them than he or she had using those other methods that make most people happy. They have become addicted to their artificial means of achieving “happiness.”
Daniel was about eleven years old when he fell into despair of ever achieving the relationship with his parents his siblings developed without difficulty or that his siblings had with one another. He became rebellious and sad. The oftener he failed over the next few years, the more vulnerable he became to artificial, chemical happiness. Nothing we did as parents to bridge the gaps seemed to be enough; by the time he was fifteen he was addicted to alcohol, marijuana, and hallucinogens. His behavior had become harmful to himself and to others.
The health of the middle and inner ear is essential to normal behaviour. The spectrum of human behaviour, including so-called “mental” illnesses, is generated in the ear.
Within a few days of the beginning of Daniel’s listening intervention he became calm, happy, able to communicate comfortably with adults, and pleased with the “new” person he had become. He was no longer shy, withdrawn, or ashamed of his former limitations. He could stand erect, sit up straight, write legibly, draw images as they appeared in focus, remain attentive, and sleep soundly. Please read Listening for the Light to learn how music can transform the syndrome of dyslexic behaviours into normal learning and behaviour. http://www.northernlightbooks.ca